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The Emotional Toll Coronavirus is Taking: And 4 Tips to Get Out of Your Fear Zone

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Why is it so hard to work right now?

Why are we lethargic or manic? 

My theory is that we are operating at about 50% capacity right now. 

We place such a great emphasis on pretending everything is fine, that we are in control. 

In other words, we have this illusion of control.

But coronavirus is spelling out how little control we have. This is the death of not just people, but the old world. The plans we had. 

When I taught three webinars in the last 3 weeks, I checked in with attendees. We had to acknowledge if we were in the fear zone, before we could get into the learning zone. The result? Nonprofit leaders told me they were scared, optimistic, anxious and everything in between. 

In our workplaces, there are acceptable feelings to show and unacceptable feelings to show. Usually happiness, pensiveness or neutrality are the few emotions that are appropriate to show. Unless you ask people, you might never know what they are feeling. And they may never share their anger, fear, rage, sadness, grief, bitterness, and much of the emotional spectrum we are embarrassed or ashamed to share with others. But we are still feeling them, no matter if we try to stuff them down or not. 

What is the emotional toll coronavirus is taking on our state of being, day to day? 

I talked with a therapist recently and asked her what she is generally seeing with her clients right now as we are in crisis mode

Inner Child

First, she told me that everyone’s inner children are coming out right now. People might stay stuck at a certain age when they experienced some trauma. So perhaps you are at age 3 when you felt abandoned by your parents, and you are now physically isolating in your house. Part of you might be feeling back at the age where you first felt abandoned. And that can be hard to cope with if you don’t realize it’s happening. 

Anxiety and Depression

Another thing that happens when we go into crisis mode is that we are swinging from Hypo-arousal to Hyper-arousal. What does that mean? It can look like swinging from depression, boredom, demotivation, or simply no reaction to anxiety, hyperawareness, freaking out and an urge to “do everything at once!” Does that sound like you? If so, you are not alone. 

Why is this happening?  

Because right now our nervous system is continually getting shocked with news about people dying, funding sources being cut, friends losing their jobs, clients getting sick, new routines with work, home, children, and new vigilance required in the outside world. To read more about hypo-arousal and hyper-arousal, go here.

Here are four things you can do right now to be aware of the emotional toll coronavirus is taking: 

  1. Observe what is going on. What feelings are coming through for you? Allow yourself to recognize what the feelings are. If you try to push them down or away they will just come back later. Remember, you are not your feelings. What age do you feel like right now? Do you feel like you are in hyper-or hypo-arousal? 
  2. Feel where this feeling is: Where do you feel this feeling in your body? Is it in your heart? Your stomach? Your throat? What color is it? Can you make a drawing and show where it is in your body? When do you remember feeling this feeling before? 
  3. RECOGNIZE: What age you are at, and what your inner child might need, and offer that. Often we look to others to fulfill our needs, and we feel let down when they do not. But if we step out of codependency, we see that we can fulfill our own needs most of the time. What does your inner 3 year old need to feel safe? Is it a blanket? A cup of hot cocoa? What does your inner 12 year old need?Do they need to draw or dance? What are some things that feel soothing to you? Why not make a list?
  4. Make Space and take a Deep Breath: I was talking with a friend recently who said in a meeting that one of his co-workers was just babbling, and he didn’t even realize he was doing it until about 8 minutes in. I suggested that each time they begin meetings with a deep breath, to help everyone get present, and hopefully calm their nervous systems a little bit. 

Thomas Hubl says, “The nature of trauma is that we are always in a hurry. The idea of not having enough time and not enough space is a trauma symptom.”

Do you feel like you don’t have time to feel right now? That’s a sign you need to stop and feel it because the emotional toll coronavirus is taking is real. Hold space for yourself. Can you take a breath before you get out of bed in the morning? Can you take a deep breath once per hour?  

REMEMBER: We are experiencing this trauma at both a micro and macro, global level. Have compassion for yourself in this moment. No matter what age you feel like. No matter how much you might feel ashamed of freaking out, and want to stuff it down. You are not alone. We are all here with you.  

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  • Mazarine

    Ah Kelly, thank you, you honor me by sharing this with your team. I really appreciate that.
  • Mazarine

    You're so welcome Emily. I'm glad to share my journey with you, and I am grateful you spoke up and shared how it resonated with where you're at right now as well.
  • Kelly

    Mazarine, thank you for sharing one of the most helpful articles I've read recently. I appreciate how you incorporated the effects of childhood trauma and recognized survivor's potential triggers with living in isolation amidst such uncertainty. I hope that individuals reading this will share with others that may find your four things we can do right now beneficial. I am forwarding to our team of mental health and recovery peer supporters for themselves if they would like and to share with their peers.
  • Emily

    Thank you so much, Mazarine, for this wonderful article. I've seen the blue chart a few times in the past few weeks, and it's helpful every single time. I really love the actionable items for checking in with yourself that you included. I believe we all need to check in with ourselves more, to realize that we can slow down, take a deep breath, and become more calm & effective. Thank you for sharing.
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